That is another line from Kevin. He says some good ones. Why would he say that? It was in response to me being called "laid back" by just about everyone. Apparently we are barely surviving because we are too laid back.
Let me just say that I've learned a lot this year. There are many days where I just want to pack up and leave and other days where I think I could stay here forever. I think being laid back is key to me living here. It hasn't always been the strongest part of my personality. But if I'm not laid back here, I'll go crazy because, well, most things don't go as planned and almost nothing is in my control. Being uptight or trying to control everything will only make matters worse.
I get critiqued a lot on my parenting style. The people-pleasing part of my personality would apologize for that in the past, but I don't do that now. I know I'm young (people LOVE to tell me that I'm SO YOUNG and that I don't look old enough to have a kid...yada yada) but in my short life, I am continually learning that I am not going to please everyone and that I'll just go crazy trying to do that. Is it worth it?! No! But of course I think there is a healthy balance. You can go way too far the other way and be hurtful to others. Or maybe that is a different personality trait?
But back to my parenting style... No matter what I do I seem to bother someone by what I do. Seriously, you wouldn't believe it. I have to chuckle. The other part that's funny is that everyone tells me what they like or don't like about I/we do. Praise the Lord that Kevin and I both have parents and family members who have done nothing but encourage and support us! But I laugh because these other people feel they need to tell me or something.
Today, for instance, I had a mom come tell me that she heard that Kevin was carrying Seth around on his shoulders. I was trying to figure out what she meant, and so I just said that Seth loved it. She said, "Well, I guess dads have been doing it for hundreds of years and moms have been yelling at them for it." Little does she know that I have never yelled at Kevin for that. Little does she also know that Kevin has been doing that with Seth since April. Seth loves it and has never once come close to falling or whatever.
So as Kevin and I were talking about this tonight, I loved how he just said, "Between us, we are barely breathing." We're all doing fine here. Seth is thriving. Everytime he has a doctor's appointment, they are all amazed by what he can do. Kevin says we need to start taking credit for what things Seth can do, that we should start telling people that it's all due to our parenting style. Ha! I haven't done a thing to get him to be ahead of the game on anything. I don't have some secret or anything, unless that secret is being laid back. :)